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Human Design Academy By Ra Uru Hu: Part 10 - Open Centers in Relationships - The Source of Pain and Transformation

Part 10: Open Centers in Relationships – The Source of Pain and Transformation

Based on the original teachings of Ra Uru Hu – “Understanding Our Design in Relationships” (1998)

“Your openness is where you are conditioned. In relationships, it is where you are most vulnerable — and most distorted. But it is also where you can become the most wise.”
— Ra Uru Hu

What Are Open Centers?

In the BodyGraph, every center is either:

  • Defined (colored in): consistent, reliable energy

  • Undefined or Open (white): inconsistent, receptive energy

When a center is open, it is not broken. But Ra made it clear:

“It is open to conditioning. That means in relationship, it’s where you try to be what you’re not.”

The Trap of Open Centers in Relationship

We are deeply attracted to what we’re open to. But we’re also most distorted by it.

Example:

  • You have an open Emotional Solar Plexus.

  • Your partner has it defined.

Result:

  • You will feel their emotions amplified.

  • You may become afraid of emotional waves.

  • You’ll avoid confrontation to keep the peace — not because you’re peaceful, but because you are avoiding discomfort.

In this way, we try to please, fix, manage, or control our partners — not out of love, but out of conditioning.

Ra called this:

“The not-self love strategy. Trying to be what you think your partner wants, based on your openness.”

Open Centers as Relationship Filters

Let’s look at each open center and what happens when it’s involved in relationship dynamics.

1. Head Center (Open)

  • Tendency to adopt others’ thoughts and inspirations

  • Feel pressure to answer questions that aren’t yours

  • Can become mentally overactive, trying to “figure out” your partner

The trap: Trying to make sense of love intellectually.
The wisdom: Not all questions are yours to answer.

2. Ajna Center (Open)

  • No fixed way of thinking

  • Can feel pressure to be certain, especially when others are

  • Tries to “prove” being right in discussions or arguments

The trap: Needing to seem smart or consistent.
The wisdom: You can hold many perspectives without fixing on one.

3. Throat Center (Open)

  • Tends to talk to be noticed or to fill silence

  • Can try to control conversations or say what you think others want to hear

The trap: Speaking to be accepted.
The wisdom: You don’t have to speak to be heard.

4. G Center (Open)

  • Deeply influenced by who you're with

  • Can lose your sense of direction or identity in relationships

  • Attracted to “fixed” identity in others

The trap: Changing yourself to match your partner.
The wisdom: Your openness allows you to love many forms.

5. Heart/Ego Center (Open)

  • Tries to prove worth through effort or loyalty

  • Can over-promise and under-deliver

  • Can feel “not good enough” unless constantly achieving or giving

The trap: Trying to earn love.
The wisdom: You have nothing to prove.

6. Solar Plexus (Open)

  • Highly sensitive to emotional energy

  • Avoids conflict and confrontation

  • Can suppress true feelings to “keep the peace”

The trap: Peace at the price of authenticity.
The wisdom: You can observe emotions without becoming them.

7. Sacral (Open)

  • Not an energy being — but can try to keep up

  • Easily overworked in Generator-heavy relationships

  • Can feel inadequate or exhausted trying to match others' energy

The trap: Saying “yes” when your body says “no.”
The wisdom: You’re not here to generate — you’re here to guide or reflect.

8. Spleen (Open)

  • Deep fear of letting go — of people, habits, situations

  • Can stay in unhealthy relationships for security or survival

  • Hyperaware of health and safety in others

The trap: Holding on too long.
The wisdom: True safety is in honoring your intuition.

9. Root (Open)

  • Feels pressure to “get things done”

  • Can become anxious or feel rushed

  • Feeds off the pressure of others

The trap: Rushing for relief, not clarity.
The wisdom: You don’t have to move just because others do.

Open Centers and the Illusion of Love

Ra warned about the open centers becoming the driver in love — where instead of choosing a partner correctly through Strategy and Authority, people fall into:

  • Fixation (“They complete me” = I’m open where they’re defined)

  • Dependency (“I need them to feel safe/loved/secure”)

  • Manipulation (“If I act a certain way, they’ll love me”)

This isn’t love — it’s the not-self strategy.

But when you recognize the openness, Ra said:

“You don’t need to close yourself. You just need to see that it’s not you.”

The Transformation: From Pain to Wisdom

Each open center is a portal:

  • A place of deep pain when unconscious

  • A source of incredible wisdom when observed

In relationship:

  • Open centers allow us to learn from others

  • But only if we do not abandon ourselves in the process

The most awakened relationships are not based on matching types or even compatible charts — but on both people living their design, and giving each other the space to be different.

Summary of Part 10:

  • Open centers are where we absorb, amplify, and distort energy

  • In relationships, they are the core of not-self dynamics

  • Each open center has a unique trap and wisdom

  • Love based on openness can become dependency

  • Awareness turns openness from a wound into wisdom

  • The only solution: live your design, and love the other in theirs

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